A relationship expert prompted furious backlash after telling women that they must be prepared to ‘submit and surrender’ to men if they want to find a husband who will provide for them.
Alisa Abdullaeva, from Atlanta, Georgia is a relationship expert, family counselor and spiritual lecturer who regularly shares relationship advice on TikTok with her over 80,000 followers.
In a now-viral video titled Women Must Accept This About Men, which racked up over 840,000 views, Alisa sparked debate between her followers when she told woman the ‘key to finding a man who will provide and protect you is to learn how to respect that men are authority.’
Alisa Abdullaeva, from Atlanta, Georgia took to TikTok to share the ‘key’ to landing a husband is to learn and accept that women aren’t equal to men
The relationship expert shared that women must ‘learn how to respect that men are authority’; Alisa, who is also a spiritual lecturer, gained over 80,00 views on her video
The Russian therapist went on to share what she believed to be the hierarchy of society and added that first comes God, then Gurus, then men, then women, and lastly kids, cats and dogs.
In her viral video Alisa argued that women aren’t equal to men, and added that in this society ‘women think they are equal’ so men will ‘never’ want to be in a relationship with a woman who is independent and can provide for herself.
She added: ‘Every man wants a woman to submit and surrender to him.’
Alisa ended the video by further explaining her outdated views when she said that women are too ’emotional’ and are ‘uncontrollable’ when it comes to their feelings.
The relationship expert is known for her old-fashion thinking and frequently tells women to avoid sex before marriage if they want to earn the respect of a man.
Alisia (pictured with her husband) is known for her outdated views and has even told women to avoid sex before marriage if they want to earn the respect of a man
In one quote she shared with her her followers that ‘high quality’ women don’t have sex before marriage or engagement
Despite the backlash from her outdated views, the spiritual lecturer doesn’t seem to mind and has said she blocks and comments and followers who don’t agree with her
In another video Alisa said: ‘If you have sex prior to marriage you will only be seen as a sexual object.’
And in another video titled Quotes By Alisa Abdullaeva she said: ‘If you want to marry a high quality man, become a high quality feminine woman. A high quality woman doesn’t offer sex as a sign of love. She shares her body only with her husband or at least a fiancé.’
Many of the relationship expert’s video have sparked fury from her followers, however, it seems as though Alisa doesn’t pay attention to the comments and said that she ‘blocks’ people who don’t agree with her views who she finds ‘disrespectful.’
TikTok users have taken to the relationship expert’s comment section to share their frustrations with her outdated views, while others, mostly men, have praised Alisa for her thinking.
‘This women gets it,’ said one man.
Her viral video, which racked over 840,000 views, sparked debate amongst followers, who claimed she was brilliant, while others disagreed with her views
Another follower added: ‘As a male I can confirm. I will move mountains for you as long as you appreciate me and never think you are equal.’
‘Couldn’t be any closer to the truth than this. Only mature women will agree/accept to this,’ added another user.
‘I’m a powerful women and all the men I know are weak and uninteresting and serve no useful purpose,’ commented one user.
Another user added: ‘No thank you. I want a man that shares responsibilities and saves me from mental load. For me that’s real leadership and protection.’
‘Pretty sure making & bringing humans into this world puts us right on top. That’s the hardest, strongest, most useful contribution known to man,’ said another user.